“I know my father was a good man and a good father. … He obviously reached a point where he could see that justice was beyond his reach and for reasons that only God will know, decided that taking his life was the only way to end his suffering,” Ashlee White wrote. Ashlee signed the letter “In Memory of My Loving Father.”Those are the words of a 14-year-old Canadian girl writing to that country’s prime minister. Her father had been denied access to her because he was unable to pay child support that was set at twice his take-home pay. Darrin White’s anguish at losing contact with his daughter, and the frank indifference of the Canadian family court system to either his or her welfare led him to hang himself. As Ashlee said, justice was indeed “beyond his reach.”
That justice is beyond the reach of many fathers is one of the main reason this blog exists; it’s one of the reasons for the astonishing growth industry called ‘fathers’ rights.’ Here and in many other places are chronicled the countless injustices done to children and their fathers in the name of a mythology created over the past forty years. That mythology holds that fathers are indifferent to their children at best and dangerous to them at worst. It holds that even the most caring father is incompetent to do the simplest task relating to children.